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Motivate Yourself 116: Goals, Values and Priorities

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I saw a rant on Facebook a few weeks ago from another therapist, making a public outburst about the plus-size model Tess Holliday.
Now Tess is very overweight, she’s a size 26, and will obviously have some massive health problems if things don’t change, but being that shape and size is part of her identity and that isn’t going to change in a rush.

His rant was about the fact that a lot of society is normalising the extremes.
And I can understand his frustration because normal as it has become lately to be in a room of 10 people 7 of which are overweight and 2 of them are scared that they will be if they’re not careful, its not a good idea to have being overweight as part of your identity.
Because when working toward any goal you need to make sure that you value the end result.

The therapist who had the rant about Tess Holliday actually had a bit of a dig at one of my friends once.
My friend is a hypnotherapist and psychotherapist who helps clients with, amongst many things, weight issues. Now my friend is quite well known within the profession, and is also quite overweight.

So this guy had a rant about my friend not practising what he preaches and criticised him in social media for seeing weight loss clients when he so obviously can’t lose weight himself.
Thing is, my friend does not want to lose weight, he doesn’t value it, it isn’t important to him and expensive lunches and good beer is.

So if you have a similar mindset make sure you become aware of it, because otherwise your priorities will hold you back.

I remember watching a TV programme a few years ago about weight loss and it was presented by a female journalist who had struggled with her weight for a long time and she specialised in making programmes about being overweight.
I thought to myself “She’s not going to lose much weight if she thinks she’ll be out of work when she does.”

If she doesn’t get her head around the idea that she can still keep working when she’s lost weight then being overweight will be more important to her than being slimmer.
She valued her career more than being slim.
That was probably OK for her as she wasn’t massively overweight but some people are, to the point where its actually dangerous. Tess Holiday is in that camp unfortunately, and because she’s famous for being an overweight model you don’t have to be too cynical to see what would happen to her if she was to lose weight.
Its probably fair to say that the modelling agency would dump her like a month old newspaper.
So there’s a fair chance that Tess Holiday values being overweight more than being healthy and if she considers losing weight she may find she struggles somewhat.

So you can see how important valuing our goals can be.

If there’s something that you feel a bit stuck with it could be that there’s something about the end result that you don’t really value.
So look closer!
You may find that there’s a lot more to that end result, and maybe there’s plenty that you DO actually value and realising it can help motivate you along.

Episode List

Episode 138: Keeping Up With The Joneses
Episode 137: The Likeable You
Episode 136: Why It's OK To Be A Loser
Episode 135: The Psychology Of Extremism
Episode 134: Are You A Lobster?
Episode 133: Critical Thinking
Episode 132: There Is Nothing Either Good Or Bad
Episode 131: The For And Against Of Imagination
Episode 130: Loneliness & Social Networks
Episode 129: Letting Go Of The Past
Episode 128: What Is Love?
Episode 127: Procrastination
Ep. 126: Who Were You Before The World Changed You?
Episode 125: Stop Saying "Sorry"
Episode 124: Emotional Contagion
Episode 123: Patience
Episode 122: Building On Your Foundations
Episode 121: Dealing With The Critics
Episode 120: Being Assertive. Just Say No!
Episode 119: Inactivity
Episode 118: Social Functioning & Evolution
Episode 117: Unleash Your Inner Superhero
Episode 116: Goals, Values and Priorities
Episode 115: 10 Tips To A Happier Life
Episode 114: Lies And Confabulation
Episode 113: Confirmation Bias
Episode 112: Are You An Imposter?
Episode 111: What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger
Episode 110: Are New Years Resolutions a good idea?
Episode 109: The African Violet Queen Of Milwaukee
Episode 108: Reframing
Episode 107: Spiders And Behaviourism
Episode 106: Practise Makes Perfect
Episode 105: Fear Of Flying
Episode 100 - 104: Happiness
Episode 99: Body Image And The Media
Episode 98: Evolution and Adaptation
Episode 97: Reflections And Regrets.
Episode 96: Dealing With Fear
Episode 95: Confidence
Episode 94: Enthusiasm
Episode 93: Tips To Relieve Christmas Stress
Episode 92: Dealing With Change
Episode 87 - 91: Self Esteem
Episode 86: Correlation Does Not Imply Causation
Episode 85: The Importance Of Being Lazy
Episode 84: Elephant Chains
Episode 83: Eating Bananas And Setting Goals
Episode 82: Ignoring The Media And Listening To Music
Episode 81: Awakening The Instincts
Episode 80: The Fine Line Between Love And Hate
Episode 79: The Best Medicine
Episode 78: A New Start
Episode 77: Time Distortion
Episode 76: Making Decisions
Episode 75: What's In A Name?
Episode 74: Pushing Ourselves Further
Episode 73: Conformity
Episode 72: Purpose
Episode 71: Perspective
Episode 70: Expectation
Episode 69: The Mind / Body Link
Episode 68: Overcoming Shyness
Episode 67: Mood Boosting
Episode 66: Sabotaging your goals
Episode 65: Self Talk
Episode 64: Money Makes The World Go Round
Episode 63: First Impressions Count
Episode 62: False Belief
Episode 61: Absolutes
Episode 60: The Psychology of feeling calm
Episode 59: Belief
Episode 58: Anchoring Emotions
Episode 57: Negativity and Perspective
Episode 56: Health And Happiness
Episode 55: Imagination vs Reality
Episode 54: Change